Listening to music on the way home, Jess Glynne came on, and her song “I Ain’t Got Far to Go” took on a while new meaning for me.
Some backstory first. My immediate family are really sporty and healthy. My Dad windsurfs every week, my mum teaches Pilates, my brother and his girlfriend surfs and rock climbs… You get the idea. I don’t do anything.
And yeah, I’m a little larger than them. I’m not on the ‘healthy’ range of the BMI scale. And it does bug me.
But the other thing to understand, is that for years I was deeply depressed and comfort ate, putting on about a stone a year. And so far, I’ve lost about a stone and a half in a year. Woo yay!!
But still, I don’t have a huge motivation to exercise. When you despise your body – regardless of what weight you are – there’s not a huge amount of motivation behind giving a shit about your body. HOWEVER. Now I’m working towards something concrete. Not just losing weight to be a more attractive female, and then having to deal with that dysphoria of being even more feminine looking, but now, to gain a more masculine physique, there’s a lot more riding on losing weight. It’ll help future surgery, it’ll help me to pass better…
Anyway. Back to the Jess Glynne song. The lyrics of the chorus are:
“Cause I spent forever waiting / And it’s no longer a dream / And now I’ve landed on my feet / And I ain’t got far to go”
I was dancing along and having a boogie, and the lyrics made me think. They resonated with me, cause I’m on the right path. And me dancing along made me think, when I’ve got the body I want, (AKA, removed the tits) how I can do whatever I want. No longer held back by feeling self-conscious, hating how I jiggle in the wrong places. No physical barrier between me and feeling comfortable just doing exercise.
I could take up street dancing. SUP’ing. Get really into a sport, like Boxing or basketball. The world will really, truly be my oyster. Have something that I really can enjoy, once I’m really, truly free.
And yes, surgery is a long way in the future. I just have to be optimistic and think, I ain’t got far to go.